building community can be a challenging task.
capitalism steals as much humanity out of us as possible and building community often feels like we are going against the current.
i like the concept of building “counter-cultures”. let’s engage with that concept for a bit. feedback welcomed.
the title of this post is “justifiably weary”. i am referring to the fact that all of us at one point of another have been intentionally or unintentionally betrayed by our own communities. this often makes people feel weary and ambivalent to starting new relationships or trusting old ones.
unfortunately for us this causes much more isolation and compartmentalization of our already compartmentalized lives. fortunately for our human spirit, connection to others is something that we constantly seek even if silently and quietly from the corner of the room.
i was talking with a good friend of mine this morning and he said something so striking that i had to stop him so that i can quickly get a pen and my journal to write it down. he was talking about the wisdom and intelligence in “feeling life through laughing” and “being joyful” at heart. i agree with him that as children we seem to carry and access these beautiful characteristics much more naturally than we do as adults. “growing up” in a capitalist society seems to come with a sense of losing touch with our humanidad.
i witness all the children in my life carry a much louder cry for connectedness than i do most adults in my life. we adults have learned countless ways of hiding our longings for each other and our mother earth. working with youth-teens and young adults has taught me that often it is at that time in our lives where we shout the loudest for connectedness, yet often our hearts feel disappointed at the end of our cry because unfortunately we feel left unheard, leaving our souls confused and a sad glow in our eyes.
so by the time we reach adulthood most of us experience ambivalence and weariness and tend to intentionally isolate ourselves so that we “don’t get more disappointed”.
i hear about this constantly with friends, family, colleagues, and clients. i can’t help but be left with the lingering question:
if so many of us feel the same longing and the same type of ambivalence, why are not more of us attempting to get together and create a “counter-culture” that intentionally works against the isolation we feel shackled by?